What are you feeling?

B25797.jpg (11347 bytes) It may seem an easy task to transmit ideas, opinions, and personal perceptions to others in a cognitive form. It is quite another matter to communicate our feelings and emotions on the affective level. According to David W. Johnson, to be able to express emotions to another is not only a source of joy to human beings, "but is also necessary for our psychological well being." [1]

Feelings may be thought of as internal biochemical reactions to experiences. The heart may beat faster, perspiration starts, breathing may become shallow or rapid. When asked about staring eyes and rigid posture, one may report feeling angry. Sometimes it is difficult to express feelings because of fear of rejection. At other times a person may not even be aware of the internal chemical reactions occurring. Feelings are internal states, but overt behaviors are used to communicate feelings to others. According to David W. Johnson to become aware of feelings, it is necessary for people to pay attention to their reactions to what is taking place around them. [2]

The five aspects of such internal reactions are: Gather information from the five senses. Interpret what the information means. Identify them as feelings. Decide how to express the feeling. Express feelings.[3]

Some feelings are difficult to express. Pair off with a friend and see how similar or different you and your friend are in expressing the following feelings. Write a description of what you and your friend say or do when these feelings are expressed. What did you learn about yourself from this activity?

rejection guilt shame anger fear

1.David W. Johnson, Reaching Out: Interpersonal Effectiveness and Self Actualization 9th ed., Boston,: Allyn and Bacon 2006 p.168

2. Ibid., p.169

3. Ibid.,p.170-171

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